WHO IS THE MANAGER OF YOUR LIFE?
THE RESPONSIBILITY SHOULD BE MINE
I was thinking these days about everything that happened in my life, and I felt immensely grateful for all the situations I have experienced, whether they are good or not so good. And why is Gratitude part of this? Because through all my experiences I was able to move on, to be fulfilling dreams, to feel free.
I did not always feel this way, especially before I was aware of my responsibility in my successes and failures. But from the moment I stopped putting myself in the position of victim and got into the position of observer, everything began to change, to make sense.
Maybe you did not know, but I worked for 9 years of my life with Project Engineering. And, despite giving myself fully to the projects I was doing, I did not feel recognized for my efforts. So, I created a world in which in my head, only the "flatterer" were promoted.
However, I am challenging person. And the more I became enraged at the fact that I felt wronged, the harder I worked and gave in to my projects, only to prove to all that I was capable of doing everything I wanted.
The problem is that it never occurred to me what I really expected: the recognition, the promotion. And along with the feeling of injustice, thoughts came to me about my ability, about the real purpose of continuing to give so much, without receiving anything in return.
Then I decided to do some more training so that my resume would be better and I could get another job. And I decided that I would take a postgraduate degree in Business Administration to achieve a leadership position that I had been practicing for a long time.
Coincidentally, in the postgraduate program had a discipline called Creation and Feasibility of Projects. And in my great arrogance to think that I already knew everything the teacher would say, I barely attended classes, and the result was having to take a substitute test to reach the passing grade.
And at one point in the teacher's explanation of my grade in the exam, he said:
"Everything in this life is a project. Even your life is a project. If you are not managing your life, you can be sure that someone else is doing it for you, or your business, or your family, or your partner... "
Pow! Pow! Pow! It was the sound I heard mentally from several slaps in my face ... I began to reflect: Who is managing my life? Am I myself? Why do I feel so unhappy? Is it really the fault of the company? Team's? The "flatterer"? Of my family? From the government?
To my great surprise, I realized that I was not really managing my own life. And who was to blame for hiring another person (or institution) in that management position? Mine.
I was the one who let this happen to me. And it was only up to me to solve the problem of my own project.
From this, and with immense gratitude for having realized in time to change, I have sought resources to manage my own life. And what was that appeal? Self-knowledge through a coaching process. In this process, although I did not have the clear perception of where I would like to go, it was fundamental to rediscover skills, desires, values ... It was fundamental for me to assume my role to be played in this world, to assume and live my truth , take responsibility for my successes or failures.
It was not easy, it's not been easy because once you remove someone from the position of "manager of your life" you can suffer retaliation. They can try to discourage you, try to slow you down, try to convince you otherwise, get you to go back.
But ... whose life is it? Whose choice? Whose freedom is it? Whose responsibility? Uniquely yours. And does not matters how old you are, how many years of experience you have, whether you have titles or not, it's always time to change, to take a place that is yours by right!
And with you? Who is managing your life? It is your project much more precious, is not it? I hope this management position is very well defined for you and everyone around you!